Relationship & Marriage Podcast

Listen in to Gil and Brenda for some refreshing conversation about your relationship. They’ll offer you tips that come from their experience of working with couples like you, and practical tools you can use right now. And the “Tingles” will tickle your emotional funny bone.

Tune in for some Tips, Tools and Tingles for your relationship.

Nov 23, 2020

S2 Episode 10 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek Series #2 Connection

This is the second podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability. Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged!

Connection vs Disconnection. This happens all the time in our relationships. Sometimes we don’t even notice. We all want connection but how do we get it? Gil and Brenda share the depths of what dis-connection looks like and what a couple does when they are experiencing connection. Being approachable, available and accessible is the foundation of a good connection. Get ready to use your hands as Gil demonstrates this subject in a way you’ll never forget!

Action steps:

1. Make a list: How do you feel when you are disconnected from your spouse?

2. Make a list: How do you feel when you are connected with your spouse?

3. Have this conversation with your spouse: (reminder: put on the glasses of curiosity. Do not go into judgement, blame or shame. You are honestly

asking so you BOTH can improve your relationship!)

How can I be more connected, what do I need to change/adjust?

 

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Nov 10, 2020

S2 Episode 9 MARRIAGE Hide and Seek #1 Identity

This is the first podcast in a series of 4. Topics in the series: Identity, Connection, Trust and Vulnerability.  Each build on each other yet they stand alone too! May your relationship be challenged, and love and growth happen as you are encouraged!

Two questions everyone asks in a marriage/relationship: Do I belong? Am I loved? Wow, deep questions. Gil and Brenda tackle these with specific ways to find the answers for yourself! It starts with you! How can you expect your spouse to meet your needs in these areas if you’re not sure of them yourself? This will be a great conversation for you to have together to deepen your relationship. Put your glasses of curiosity on (not judgement/defensiveness or blaming) and watch what happens!

Resources mentioned:

www.flagpage.com

www.5lovelanguages.com

As always, there are action steps for you to take:

1. Do a checklist for yourself. What do you need to know that you belong and are loved?

2. Share it with your spouse

3. Affirm and acknowledge each other’s good points, especially when they make an effort to show you what you need!

 

Gil and Brenda Stuart are a Husband/ Wife team who are Marriage Illustrators. As a Counselor and Coach they work with couples from all over the world!

 

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Jul 28, 2020

Episode 8 STEPFAMILY Gil and Brenda are interviewed by Ron Deal from Family Life Blended

Are you looking for support for the unique dynamics and challenges that stepfamily life brings? Have you wondered where you can go to get help? Then this episode is for you! Ron Deal talks with Gil and Brenda on how to find a church that will support you as a stepcouple, how to know if you need counseling and where to go, and what to do if not everyone is willing to go. It might be as simple as attending a small group at your church with other couples on a similar journey. But you must commit to go! Listen in as Ron talks with Gil and Brenda about the value of finding the right support for your stepfamily and your part in making it happen.

· Learn more and register for the Summit on Stepfamily Ministry. https://www.summitonstepfamilies.com/

· How to Find a Competent Christian Stepfamily Therapist. https://www.smartstepfamilies.com/smart-help/learn/sharing-hope-finding-help/how-to-find-a-competent-christian-stepfamily-therapist

· Trusted Counselor List https://smartstepfamilies.com/smart-help/marriage-therapy-intensives

· Encouragement for the couples in a stepfamily. https://gilandbrenda.com/restored-remarried/

 

· Building Love Together in Blended Families by Dr. Gary Chapman and Ron Deal.  https://shop.familylife.com/p-5763-building-love-together-in-blended-families.aspx

 

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Jul 01, 2020

S2 Episode 7 STEPFAMILY Interview Craig & Gina Morgan, Blended Together

S2 Episode 7 STEPFAMILY Interview Craig & Gina Morgan, Blended Together

Another powerful conversation about how to strengthen and protect your marriage and stepfamily. Gil and Brenda interview Craig & Gina Morgan with Blended Together. Married 24 years, they are out of the Dallas, TX area, and share an excerpt from their latest resource, Building Blocks for Making the Family Whole Again. Referencing the wall that Nehemiah built, brings rich nuggets of how we are rebuilding our family. Prayer, time, and having others to help is so important because the opposition will come!Part of the conversation is about how men and women have shared experiences can reveal underlying hurts in a stepfamily. It’s just always nice to hear like-minded people having a raw conversation and encouraging each other! Enjoy!

Action Steps:

1. If your wall is to protect your marriage, what shape is it in?

2. How can you strengthen it?

3. Gil and Brenda have referenced the wall, representing your great marriage. You may have heard this before, but this is a great time to check in with each other again.

· Identify what comes against our wall (from the attacks coming from the outside: ex’s, kids, finances, stepkids)

· How are we striving for a great marriage? (not just a good marriage)

· This is what I can do to invest more in our marriage ________.

· What is our vision for our marriage and family? Where are we going?

Craig & Gina Morgan

Blended Together

craig@blendedtogether.org

gina@blendedtogether.org

972-589-5275

Facebook Blended Together Forever

Instagram Blended Together Forever

 

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Jun 02, 2020

S2 Episode 6 MARRIAGE Are You Married and Lonely?

Most people think that when they get married, they won’t be lonely again. Feeling lonely and isolated in a marriage is becoming more common than you may realize. Gil and Brenda have talked with several people that are feeling this way. Do you know someone who is lonely in their marriage? Is it you?

Loneliness affects not only our mental health but our physical health too. It depresses our immune system and increases inflammatory responses. We are at risk for depression and anxiety and distorted perceptions of life.

The realities of being lonely in a marriage can be very heavy and sometimes dark. Gil and Brenda will define this journey and as always, offer ways to find hope again.

Resource: LOVE MAPS

Reference: Drift Happens Season 1 Episode 47

Action Steps:

1. Take the initiative.

a. If you’re lonely, chances are your partner is too.

b. Do you know their Love Languages? Sometimes just reaching out and touching their hand speaks volumes (if their Love Language is physical Touch.)

c. Try to initiate conversations that are not about transactional details. Ask them for their views about something they care about and make sure                to demonstrate that you are listening.

Don’t expect them to reciprocate right away, as habits take time to change, but after a few gestures of goodwill, they will likely return the favor.

2. Create shared experiences.

If your spouse is in the other room watching their favorite show, sit next to them (at the start of the show) and say, “You love this show so much I            want to give it a try.” They may be confused, suspicious, or both, but just be sincere and try to see the show through their eyes, even if it’s not                your thing. After the show, tell them what you appreciated about it – even if it was terrible, find something! That is connection.

3. Practice taking their perspective.

· Don’t commit “assumicide” (don’t assume!)

· Practice empathy

· Perspective taking will build intimacy and increase connection.

The steps of building intimacy are:

  • Genuinely seek to know one another
  • To reveal (which is risky) that what was shared and is important to you. If you don’t show you don’t care, that will destroy connection.

 

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