Listen in to Gil and Brenda for some refreshing conversation about your relationship. They’ll offer you tips that come from their experience of working with couples like you, and practical tools you can use right now. And the “Tingles” will tickle your emotional funny bone.
Tune in for some Tips, Tools and Tingles for your relationship.
It’s High School and College graduation season!. Kids hear all the time, the dreaded question “so what are your plans? College, work, what are you going to do with your life?” The conversation continues with Cutis Miller, Executive Director/Founder of Connect Battle Ground. How does a high ACE’s (Adverse Childhood Experiences) score affect how a child (and adult) navigates this world? The cycle of need, arousal, response and relaxation (or distress) impacts how we deal with life. We need secure, positive connections. Learn about the KNOW acronym and how it can positively impact your life and those around you!
The ACE’s Questions:
1. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often…Swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you? or Act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt? If yes enter 1 ________ 2. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often…Push, grab, slap, or throw something at you? or Ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured? If yes enter 1 ________ 3. Did an adult person at least 5 years older than you ever…Touch or fondle you or have you touch their body in a sexual way? or Attempt or actually have oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse with you? If yes enter 1 ________ 4. Did you often or very often feel that …No one in your family loved you or thought you were important or special? or Your family didn’t look out for each other, feel close to each other, or support each other? If yes enter 1 ________ 5. Did you often or very often feel that … You didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, and had no one to protect you? or Your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it? If yes enter 1 ________ 6. Were your parents ever separated or divorced? If yes enter 1 ________ 7. Was your mother or stepmother: Often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown at her? or Sometimes, often, or very often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard? or Ever repeatedly hit at least a few minutes or threatened with a gun or knife? If yes enter 1 ________ 8. Did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker or alcoholic or who used street drugs? If yes enter 1 ________ 9. Was a household member depressed or mentally ill, or did a household member attempt suicide? If yes enter 1 ________ 10. Did a household member go to prison? If yes enter 1 _______ Now add up your “Yes” answers: _______ This is your ACE Score.
Connect Battle Ground ACE’s information
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Episode 37 ALL ACE’s Part 1 (Adverse Childhood Experiences) Interview with Curtis Miller
Have you (or someone you know) experienced a Big “T” trauma or a Little “t” trauma?
Whether you are a child, teen or an adult, there can be many factors that can lead you to a life of low self-worth, low self-esteem, and a constant self-protection. This impacts all of our relationships. Gil and Brenda interview Curtis Miller, Executive Director/Founder of Connect Battle Ground. This non-profit focus’ on supporting kids in the BG community and helps bring generations together for connection. Learn how certain Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE’s) can not only impact a kid but an adult. Resilience can be experienced through connectedness in relationships. For more information and recourses check out the link below.
The ACE’s Questionaire:
1. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often…Swear at you, insult you, put you down, or humiliate you? or Act in a way that made you afraid that you might be physically hurt? If yes enter 1 ________ 2. Did a parent or other adult in the household often or very often…Push, grab, slap, or throw something at you? or Ever hit you so hard that you had marks or were injured? If yes enter 1 ________ 3. Did an adult person at least 5 years older than you ever…Touch or fondle you or have you touch their body in a sexual way? or Attempt or actually have oral, anal, or vaginal intercourse with you? If yes enter 1 ________ 4. Did you often or very often feel that …No one in your family loved you or thought you were important or special? or Your family didn’t look out for each other, feel close to each other, or support each other? If yes enter 1 ________ 5. Did you often or very often feel that … You didn’t have enough to eat, had to wear dirty clothes, and had no one to protect you? or Your parents were too drunk or high to take care of you or take you to the doctor if you needed it? If yes enter 1 ________ 6. Were your parents ever separated or divorced? If yes enter 1 ________ 7. Was your mother or stepmother: Often or very often pushed, grabbed, slapped, or had something thrown at her? or Sometimes, often, or very often kicked, bitten, hit with a fist, or hit with something hard? or Ever repeatedly hit at least a few minutes or threatened with a gun or knife? If yes enter 1 ________ 8. Did you live with anyone who was a problem drinker or alcoholic or who used street drugs? If yes enter 1 ________ 9. Was a household member depressed or mentally ill, or did a household member attempt suicide? If yes enter 1 ________ 10. Did a household member go to prison? If yes enter 1 _______ Now add up your “Yes” answers: _______ This is your ACE Score.
Connect Battle Ground ACE’s information
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A blended family that is formed through the pain of widowhood is very difficult, to say the least. Join Gil and Brenda as they interview Jess and Ryan Ronne. Both lost their previous spouses to brain cancer. Grief, loss, compassion, “sainting the person,” is discussed in this pretty raw interview. How do you engage the other family members who are grieving themselves and yet protect your new family? Jess and Ryan share vulnerably what worked for them…and what hasn’t. Make sure you check them out on the following social media outlets!
www.jessplusthemess.com
Facebook/jessplusthemess
Instagram/Jessplusthemess
Pinterest/jessplusthemess
YouTube/jessplusthemess
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In a marriage, the sexual experience is the highest form of communication. In their playful, real style, Gil and Brenda talk about the subject of the sexual relationship in your marriage. And, as usual, they don’t just talk about it from the 30,000 ft level, but they go deeper. Where does the heart come into play? In what ways can you be more intentional in this part of your relationship? How do you repair? Listen in for some new ideas!
Gil and Brenda would love to hear your thoughts too! Please go to their Facebook or Instagram pages to make your comments!
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#gilandbrenda #RestoredandRemarried #marriagepodcast #investinyourmarriage #marriagecoach #marriagecounselor #husbandwifeteam #remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast #stepfamily
In a marriage, the sexual experience is the highest form of communication. In their playful, real style, Gil and Brenda talk about the subject of the sexual relationship in your marriage. And, as usual, they don’t just talk about it from the 30,000 ft level, but they go deeper. Where does the heart come into play? In what ways can you be more intentional in this part of your relationship? How do you repair? Listen in for some new ideas!
Gil and Brenda would love to hear your thoughts too! Please go to their Facebook or Instagram pages to make your comments!
#RestoredandRemarried #tipstoolsandtingles
#remarried #remarriage #stepfamily #stepmom #stepdad #stepmother #stepfather #stepparent #stepparenting #stepchild #blendedfamily #marriagehelp #conflictresolution #parenting #remarriagehelp #stepfamilyhelp #blendedfamilyhelp #remarriageadvice #marriagepodcast #stepfamilypodcast #blendedfamilypodcast #remarriagepodcast #maritalsex
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