My husband Gil and I have been married for fourteen years—remarried that is. We were both active and involved in our churches before we met, so we never thought we would find ourselves on this side of the marriage fence. Divorce was not in our plan. Yet, both of us found ourselves divorced, healing, dating again, and asking, “How do I make my remarriage work?”
God can lovingly heal the harmful effects of divorce as He continues His work of restoration in your remarriage.
A huge ripple effect was created by “the great train wreck,” our divorces. These non-welcoming, painful ripples have been felt by our kids, other family members, and friends. But God can lovingly heal the harmful effects of divorce as He continues His work of restoration in your remarriage. Out of our pain, God inspired our ministry, Restored and Remarried. We’ve been speaking, providing resources, and coaching to help couples through remarriage, and blended family transitions for 12 years. So, here’s one tip for every year!
Here are 6 of the 12 ways to make a remarriage healthy and satisfying.
- Work through your past hurts, insecurities, and jealousies. If you don’t, it will definitely affect your remarriage.
- Stay in the present. Don’t compare your new marriage and family to what you had before. This is a new ball game with some new players.
- Be your spouse’s biggest ally. They are first. Have their back in all situations. (Before the kids, the ex, the job, you get the point!)
- Seriously pray for wisdom daily, hourly even. Remarriage and stepfamily life is a huge challenge that will require wisdom from God to navigate smoothly.
- Assume the best in your spouse. Stay positive.
- When nothing is going right, hold each other for 30 seconds, then kiss.
So, “How do I make my remarriage work?” Well, it’s work all right, but it’s worth every moment. And with God in the middle of it, restoration, redemption, incredible joy, and healing can be yours. Stay Tuned for Part 2!